But I want to reference a THE source in etiquette - Emily Post at EmilyPost.com. Post wrote back in May 23, 2001 that it is OK to ask for money, in fact of the 66,000 couples surveyed, 42% wanted to know how to ask for money. From Emily Post:
According to Post, it’s okay to ask for money as a wedding gift, however, it is extremely important to do so politely. Here are some of Post’s suggestions:
- If money is the gift you would most appreciate, get the word out to family and close friends.
- If you are asked point blank what you would like, you might say, “Whatever you want to give us is wonderful, the choice is yours, but money is at the top of our wish list.”
- It’s also a good idea to state the intended purpose. Perhaps you are saving for a down payment on a house or your honeymoon. Guests will then know how their gift may be used.